What's Your Type?

That's actually a more complicated question than you may realize, at least scientifically speaking. Most people automatically answer with physical characteristics they find attractive, but that's only part of what initially makes the sparks fly. Subsequent posts will go into more details about each of the basic elements (field of eligibles, physical attractiveness, proximity, similarity, and reciprocity of attraction) that are involved in the formation of a relationship, but for now, enjoy this ridiculous, but entertaining Buzzfeed quiz.

Apparently my type is "the babe" and eye candy makes me feel dandy...

When Your Best Friend Gets Married

So, Karah (name adjusted) is not the first person I met when I came to school, and she wasn't the second. But she was near the top and she also became one of my favorite people and she's one of my best friends.

Also, she's getting married today.

She's not the first of my friends to get married (some of my friends who are my age have babies for pizza's sake), but she's the first one who is my close friend and roommate and stuff.

The point of this post is an outlet for me to freak out a little bit. Oh, and I guess to also give advice about how to bridesmaid. According to the internet my duties as a bridesmaid includes things like:

-"Stand in the receiving line at the bride's request." 

-"Accompany bride on visits to the restroom, if asked."

-"Try not to complain about the bridesmaids dress, even if the color is horrendous."

-"Be on the lookout for toe-tapping guests who might need encouragement and/or a dance partner." 

But so far it seems like my duties include:

-"Don't stand in the receiving line. Instead be the designated food bearer for when the bride and groom have to screw on smiles and receive people."

-"Swallow your anxiety and dance with people."

-"Swallow your anxiety and talk with people."

-"Ensure that the bride never feels lonely by offering to move in to the closet in her soon-to-be new apartment."

-"Call dibs on a groomsmen as soon as possible. #futureMrs.Kowski"

-"If the maid of honor can't come to town until the actual wedding, plan the bachelorette party and MAKE ABSOLUTELY SURE that there is sufficient amounts of Spongebob."

But most importantly, when your best friend gets married, and you're a bridesmaid, and you don't have a plus one, tell her how happy you are for her. And give her a giant hug.

Congratulations, Karah and Jayson! I am so excited for you!!

What Even is this Blog?

Background story:

The other night I'm hanging out with my sister, let's call her Sara, talking about all things relationships - past boys, who's our "types," and the like. Later that night, as I'm sitting on the couch in my apartment, having watched two of my roommates leave to be with boys basically as soon as I walked through the door (one was to break things off with a boy, let's call her Bekah, and the other for a first date, how about her name's Lacy), I decide I want a giant bowl of ice cream and some Netflix. And I contemplate what it would be like to be giddy for a date or to have a boy to break things off with, so I decide to make my next subject of study, "Social Interactions, Chapter: 1 What it is to "know" boys, Section 1: How to Go From 'What Even is a Boy?' to Introducing Yourself Without Having Even One Panic Attack."

All of this is a summary of a text I sent Sara that night. Which then turned into a conversation with Bekah. Which then turned into her convincing me to make this blog.

But, really. Regardless of my perpetually single state of being, I am often a go-to adviser for friends when it comes to boys. Probably because I enjoy studying this kind of stuff.

Putting it into practice is another story. So, I guess this blog is more for me than for anyone else. Maybe organizing what you know about dating and relationships and boys in general will make it easier to introduce yourself without having even one panic attack.

Also, DISCLAIMER:

1) My opinions are just that, opinions. I know some of my views don't coincide with popular opinion. Don't feel like you have to agree with me. Do feel like you have to be nice about it.

2) I will always try to make my views based on actual research, but just know that a vast majority also stem from personal religious beliefs. I'm LDS (Mormon), and there will be a lot of material here specifically relating to that. So, thanks for being considerate.